Comments on: How to Choose the Right Therapist

By: Ann

Ann — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 15:37:55 +0000

Jen, I understand what you are saying, and I offer a free half hour in an attempt to lessen the financial stress of “shopping around.” At the 30 minute point you can leave and not owe me anything. You also have the option of staying the full 60 minutes, and in that case you do owe me for the whole session. The therapist that got “extremely aggressive” with you probably had their own issues stimulated and didn’t keep that to herself/himself as is the therapist’s job.

Contacting the therapist who was aggressive with you and telling them why you are not coming back might be empowering for you, and would be good for the therapist to hear. You can tell the therapist you do or do not wish to be contacted in response. You could email, write a letter, or leave a message. Feeling empowered could give you the energy to keep looking! Good luck!

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 15:11:16 +0000

I believe that finding a therapist is the hardist part…and really may be what discourages people the most. I have been to two and the first was a poor fit from the first session; the second I thought was a good fit until the third session when she became extremely aggressive and I left more anxiousand sad than I was when I had arrived.

It becomes hard to “shop” around as it is financially stressful to do so and I think that may be why some people (well why I) feel almost powerless to get the help they need to work through their depression and anxiety. And to be honest ( I know it sounds lazy) the effort is almost too overwhelming to seek out a new therapist when you have already had a negative experience.

I think making calls and doing interviews is a great idea, summoning the energy, the strength, and the ambition…well, like I said, I know it sounds lazy.